Ozaukee & Washington County Real Estate: I'm Realizing I'm Having a Hard Time Letting Go

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I'm Realizing I'm Having a Hard Time Letting Go

I received a call early this morning from one of my sellers to let me know she decided to accept the latest counter offer we received from the buyer who had written an offer on her house. Admittedly, I breathed a sigh of relief.

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It's a great offer. Clean, fair, and a pretty quick closing, too. But getting this to the "accepted offer" status wasn't as easy as I thought it would be. And this morning I found out why.

It came down to the realization that agreeing to this latest counter offer meant taking one step closer to letting go of the house. It's the house where she raised her kids. It's the house that defined her independence after a divorce. She told me she gets a lump in her throat when she thinks about accepting this offer. She was realizing she was having a hard time letting go.

I told the seller that no matter why a house is being sold -- good or not so good -- there is going to be emotion weaving its way throughout the process. It's not just a business deal. It's about letting go and moving on to that next chapter.

That house isn't just a bunch of wood and nails and tile and windows and shingles; it's a home. It's where we laugh together, cry together, create holiday and birthday memories, share family meals, and grow together. It's home.

My seller knows her life is pretty great right now. She said it herself. It's time for her to close this chapter and continue the one she started with her new husband last year. I know she's going to be just fine. And I know she's excited for this family about to start a new chapter of their own. 

 

Peggy Wester
Phone: 262-370-1757
Email: pwester@realtyexecutives.com
Website: peggywester.com
Blog: peggysblog.com


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Comment balloon 10 commentsPeggy Wester • January 13 2012 12:56PM

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A good reminder that we sell lifestyles not houses...there is always that emotional component on both sides of the transaction.

Posted by Li Read, Caring expertise...knowledge for you! (Sea to Sky Premier Properties (Salt Spring)) over 6 years ago

Li -- That's it exactly. I kind of got the sense when I talked to her last night that emotions were getting in the way of making a decision. I think sometimes we just have to give the seller the time they need to work thru that.

Posted by Peggy Wester, Real Estate Agent Ozaukee & Washington County (Realty Executives Integrity) over 6 years ago

Emotions can sometimes cloud our judgement. Your ability to allow to your clients' the time they need to sort through emotions was time well-spent.

Posted by Peggy Hughes/pha logistix, inc., SF NYC LA (pha logistix inc) over 6 years ago

Peggy -- It took me awhile to figure that out -- just give them time to think things thru. But you are right -- it is time very well spent. Thank you for stopping by!

Posted by Peggy Wester, Real Estate Agent Ozaukee & Washington County (Realty Executives Integrity) over 6 years ago

For the seller Peggy there is a ton of emotion. For the buyer it is much more a product and not near as much emotion so I see this letting go part a lot with sellers.

Posted by Gary Woltal, Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth (Keller Williams Realty) over 6 years ago

Gary -- I see it a lot, as well. I think it takes some of them by surprise, though.

Posted by Peggy Wester, Real Estate Agent Ozaukee & Washington County (Realty Executives Integrity) over 6 years ago

Starting a "new" life with some one is great. I am sure there were a lot of bad memories

from her past there as well.

I wish her the best of all life has to offer.


Irene Durocher Bristol Properties International

Boca Raton,Fla

Posted by Irene Durocher, homesweethome4u@att.net (Coldwell Banker BUYERS AGENT) over 6 years ago

Irene -- She is excited to move on. All will be fine. Thank you for your kind words and for stopping by!

Posted by Peggy Wester, Real Estate Agent Ozaukee & Washington County (Realty Executives Integrity) over 6 years ago

I have seen many sellers with emotional ties to a home face this issue. It slaps them in the face when painting over the pencil lines on the kitchen door frame marking the growth of their children or grandchildren. Once we removed the wood trim so my seller could take that trim piece to her next home! I try to remind them that they will make new memories in the next house with their family. Very nice post!

;)

Posted by Betina Foreman, Realtor, C.N.E., with WJK REALTY (WJK Realty) over 6 years ago

Betina -- Wow! Removed the trim?!? Well...I gotta admit I'd probably want to take the trim, too. Sooooo sentimental. :)

Posted by Peggy Wester, Real Estate Agent Ozaukee & Washington County (Realty Executives Integrity) over 6 years ago

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